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If you’re not feeling “hell yeah!” then say no

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from the book “Hell Yeah or No”:

If you’re not feeling “hell yeah!” then say no

2018-06-03

Most of us have lives filled with mediocrity. We said yes to things that we felt half-hearted about.

So we’re too busy to react when opportunities come our way. We miss out on the great because we’re busy with the mediocre.

The solution is to say yes to less.

If you’re not feeling “Hell yeah, that would be awesome!” about something, say no.

It’s an easier decision. Say no to almost everything. This starts to free your time and mind.

Then, when you find something you’re actually excited about, you’ll have the space in your life to give it your full attention. You’ll be able to take massive action, in a way that most people can’t, because you cleared away your clutter in advance. Saying no makes your yes more powerful.

Though it’s good to say yes when you’re starting out, wanting any opportunity, or needing variety, it’s bad to say yes when you’re overwhelmed, over-committed, or need to focus.

Refuse almost everything. Do almost nothing. But the things you do, do them all the way.

© 2018 Derek Sivers. ( « previous || next » )

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  1. Sean Crawford (2020-05-08) #

    Emperor Napoleon said he loved how his wife would always say "no" right away, to give herself time to think.

    I do this trick too, both out loud and inside, with others and with myself. Everyone would hate me if I kept them in hopeful suspense as I was thinking in their presence, but no one minds if my quick" no," after I figuratively or literally "go away and think" then turns into a yes.

  2. Bill Serfass (2020-06-23) #

    Thanks, Derek. The older I get the more I understand this message of yours. As you stated in your last 2 sentences; I used to say yes to everything for fear of missing an opportunity. I was easily overwhelmed and over committed for better or worse. Happy to say, for better. However, I'd much rather do the things I can do with a full commitment and a full heart. Thanks, again. Bill

  3. Franz Schrepf (2020-07-27) #

    This was probaby the lesson which stood out to me the most when reading "anything you want".

    We somebow shifted from a world of scarcity and FOMO into a world of abundance without noticing it, and applying a scarcity mindset when the real issue is having too much opportunity will just leads to being overwhelmed. Hard skill to practice though.

  4. Anna (2020-08-12) #

    Thank you, even though your book was a vehicle to come back for learn English trough reading and listening, I found a way to thinking. Which I lost last times, because of my mediocrity life. Now I know I have a super-teacher not only for English language but for motivation too. At the last I have appreciation to my great Teacher of English Bruce Lovell for giving me such good way for learning and growing - your book :)

    Anna C.

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