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Facebook Adults Shamed This Girl For Her Homecoming Dress

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·Posted 11 hours ago

Adults Shamed This 17-Year-Old Girl For Her Homecoming Dress On Facebook, And It's Starting A Whole Conversation About Boomer Hate On The Platform

"The negative comments shocked me because most of them were from women — and they were all mothers and grandmothers."

We've got a lot to unpack, so first watch this viral TikTok about a homecoming dress that has over 10 million views, and then we'll get into the details:

PSSST! TikTok videos not playing for you? You might need to change the settings on your device — here's how.

BuzzFeed spoke to 17-year-old Grace Brumfield, who made the TikTok. She is a junior at an Alabama high school.

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Her school recently held their homecoming dance. Grace went with her boyfriend, Zach, wearing a dress she had altered and customized to loosely resemble Princess Diana’s black revenge dress. SHE LOOKED STUNNING!

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Anwar Hussein / WireImage, Grace Blumfield

"Homecoming was AMAZING! I had so many compliments on my dress, and it was our first homecoming since COVID, so they made it really nice and very special for all of the students! I made so many great memories, and the environment was just out-of-this-world amazing," she said.

Instagram: @_gracebrumfield_

"We took our homecoming pictures in a sunflower field that was planted in memorial for a fellow peer named Dalton Defilipi, who passed away last year," Grace added.

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Unfortunately, Grace's pleasant homecoming experience was brought to a halt after Zach's mom shared the couple's pics in a Facebook group called Sunflowers and Daisies. "My boyfriend's mom started telling me how the pictures had somewhere around 32,000 likes. She was talking about all the nice comments, and then she said, 'And of course, there are the negative ones as well.' My heart kind of immediately sank because I felt so confident about my appearance and attire that night, and I didn’t want that confidence I had to be in a way stolen from me. I have been picked on my entire life — my freshman year, I moved schools because it got so bad."

After Grace read the comments, she was taken aback by how mean some of them were. "It shocked me because most of them were from women — and they were all mothers and grandmothers. The only question I had was, Why? I didn’t see anything wrong with my photos, so why were there negative comments?"

Zach and Grace gazing at each other amid sunflowers

The Facebook post has since been removed by the group admin, but here are some of the awful comments that Grace screenshotted and shared in her viral video:

Grace smiling below the comment "Wow, did her parents see her in that? Way too short and looks trashy on such a pretty girl. Leave something to the imagination, no need to put it ALL out there"
Grace looking pensive below the comments "That dress is ridiculous" and "I was thinking the same; she looks beautiful, though — just a little too much for the age imo"
Grace looking down below the comment "Paying for a homecoming date!! That's wrong"

WARNING: The following section contains mentions of sexual assault.

Out of all the comments, Grace said, the one that most hurt her was from a woman named Rhonda. "She said that based on the way I was dressed, I was asking to be raped. As a victim of sexual assault, it just made my blood boil because clothes are not the reasons that men and women are assaulted."

Grace covering her mouth with her hand below the comment "That dress is inappropriate. ... Girls wonder why they get raped. ... I'm disgusted that girls dress like tramps instead of beautiful young women"

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After Grace posted the hateful Facebook comments on TikTok, people were quick to address the irony of the situation:

Comment: "Parents are so concerned about bullying yet are fine with it when it's their middle-age self bullying minors on Facebook"
Comment: "Notice it's all older women hating on a younger woman too"

And btw, Grace even said that her dress DID pass the fingertip rule...but that's beside the point.

Comment: "Raise your hand if you didn't even notice the dress or length b/c you don't feel the need to sexualize people and view them as objects"

Thankfully, Grace's parents, boyfriend, and her boyfriend's mom have all been very supportive and have her back. "Zach's mom was responding to some mean comments and sticking up for me, and my boyfriend kept reassuring me of how beautiful I looked that night, saying they were just jealous old Karens."

@mgracebrumfield

Reply to @hannahbelleclout #greenscreen me and Rhonda had to have a talk😘😜

♬ TWINNEM - Coi Leray

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Grace has one message to share after going through all of this: "I think that what any man or woman decides to put on their body is their choice. As long as no one is being harmed, it’s nobody’s business. I dress the way I dress because I know what looks good on my body and what makes me feel confident in my own skin. Nobody else has the right to tell someone to cover up more because it’s distracting — older men and women need to be taught to control themselves."

Instagram: @_gracebrumfield_

She added, "My body is a work of art, and no matter how I want to display it, they can either admire and compliment or, if they don’t like it, disagree and move on graciously. Making comments on a young person and a woman’s body can cause body dysmorphia and seriously affect their mental health."

Special thanks to Grace for bravely sharing her experience. You can follow her on TikTok and Instgram.

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  • 10 hours ago
    So many bitter people attacking a high school girl for the length of her dress and not one comment about her date's tragic mullet....make it make sense
  • 10 hours ago
    She looks fine! I’m more concerned about her dating a boy with a mullet. Let’s have a conversation about questionable hair choices instead
  • 10 hours ago
    What "private parts" was she supposedly showing? Her knees? Her neck? I'm so confused.

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